I’ve been ridiculously stressed, well, my whole life, but more than usual the last several months. I’ve also done my fair share of berating myself for not keeping up with this blog or any other form of writing. I kick myself about daily. I’ve had my hands full and I know that’s not an excuse. The only viable excuse would be if I were dead, or in a coma. Though I feel like I’m ready to slip into a coma on a regular basis due to a terrible quality and quantity of sleep due to allergies that never let up, I am not actually incapacitate enough to defend not typing even the smallest paragraph. I need to take time away from my hand-wringing and perfecting my resting-bitch-face, to spill onto paper what’s sloshing around in my head. There’s a visual.
Anyway, the point of this post is not to point out my short-comings but rather why I’m lucky. It’s because I have someone in my life that has it worse than I could imagine having it and she still puts me ahead of herself. *d* surprised me with flowers at work today. I read the note and got a goofy grin on my face–much like the one on the smiley face balloon attached to the bouquet–that I couldn’t shake well into the evening. It’s these sorts of things that remind me that I am loved and thought highly of even when I don’t feel that way about myself. I’m reminded how lucky I am. There is someone who thinks I’m awesome even when I’m kicking my own ass for being what I feel is lazy. I love you, too, *d*. The flowers are beautiful and you are too!
It’s hard to believe any of us ever catch on to the English language. It has a multitude of words with multiple meanings. For example, two of the many meanings of the word “trip” is journey and misstep. How do my children ever decipher what I mean if I were to ask, “Do you want to take a trip?” How do they know I am not getting ready to come knock them over? Or why are they not equally as confused after hearing ‘tennis match’? Is it a stick to burn a tennis racquet? Maybe a date between two tennis players? It is the frequent use of these words in real life that help us understand how we intend to use them. When that fails, out come the kid’s typical one hundred questions. Experience and knowledge help decipher the true meaning behind our words.
Words are very powerful. When the meaning behind a statement is misunderstood, it can cause havoc. When a statement is taken out of context, the same mess can occur. Then the problem would no longer lie with the person behind the words, rather with those who hear them. I get rather disgruntled when something I say is misconstrued or taken out of context so I try to make what I share verbally clear. That can be hard for a shy individual such as myself. I have to sometimes think very hard to make simple conversation, let alone a complex conversation that could change the way someone views me. Miscommunication can be a hard pill to swallow, or do I mean a pill that’s hard to swallow….. “Geesh.”
The only way we will ever know what others are trying to say is to ask questions and be knowledgeable. My biggest pet peeve is social media. There is no filter for the mess spread through social media. It is a great place to take one sentence of an entire forum and twist it to confirm the end of the world. People read, comment, or forward without finding out if there is truth behind what they are reading or sharing. I can laugh and pass off a good part of this, but when it comes down to respecting others, everyone should make an effort to find the facts and speak the truth. Maybe I am barking up the wrong tree, so to speak. Gossip isn’t a new problem and it has always spread like wildfire, long before the internet. Is it more important to form an opinion of someone based on what you want to believe about them or what you know? I know the easy answer, but what is the right one?
The solution is respect and love for eachother. Friendships should be based on what is inside and love above all. I may share my personal opinions on life with those around me but I do not anticipate them to change and follow my beliefs anymore than they can anticipate me to conform to theirs. It is mutual respect. Remember, when all else fails, the best advice is: BE KIND. Kindness goes a long way and it requires little or no understanding of another person’s beliefs so pass it on. It’s a shame when we miss out on the wonderful diversity of the human existance based on misinformation.